Okay, one more iteration for the dumb motherfuckers in the cheap seats:

It's not just about FINDING joy and LOOKING for love, it's about BEING joyful and BEING in love. Not on account of anybody or anything in this world, but simply as a baseline State of Being.

And if that doesn't work for you, as a last resort you might try repeatedly shoving a Big Black Dildo in yer rectum.

Use Lube.